In recent times, I have been occupied with the thoughts of some of my loved ones who are no more.
I still wonder what activity they must have been carrying out an hour before they passed on.
What if they had their favorite food?
What if they didn’t?
What if they were still angry with someone who hurt them?
What if they postponed the call to their loved ones?
What if? What if they watched their favorite movie?
What if not?
Honestly, thinking about these truly unsettles me.
Inasmuch as I feel sad that they are no more, I try to imagine what they would have done differently were they given another chance at life. I am here to share some of my thoughts on how to make the most of our time on this side of eternity by God’s grace. I hope this meets you well.
1. Forgive yourself: There are things I have done in the past that occasionally sting me. Some of them were mistakes that could have been avoided, some were due to my naivety, some were intentional. Regardless, I believe those moments were integral to shaping my life’s journey. Of course, mistakes come with consequences but would it be wise to wallow in a pit of sorrow? By no means! I have come to understand that I am also deserving of my forgiveness. I choose to stay in touch with my emotions, clean up and move on. Not as easy it sounds but it is actually doable.
2. Live in the Present: Be intentional about cultivating and participating in happiness. Do not be afraid to become more. You will have doubts but do not nurture them. You are here for a reason so live it out. Avoid drama, screen your circle, learn wisdom, honor the seasons of blooming and shedding in your life, take note of your distractions and be sure to extinguish them, leave your past where it is, deny it oxygen. Live, Love and Breathe. Today is your gift, utilize it.
3. Forgive others: Most times, it is not about the one who hurts you but about yourself. No one deserves to occupy space in your heart for so long because of anger. You have loved ones who need such attention in your heart. It may be difficult but you have to try. Call their names, cry if you have to but choose forgiveness.
4. Give hope a chance: Only God knows the end from the beginning. This means you should stop trying so hard to figure everything out before choosing to try again. Just do it! Perfection is only attained through bits of consistent efforts. Push my dearest, push! It is time to fan the flames of hope.
I think I should stop here. Does this help? Will you do well to honor the gift of today? I trust you would.
My heart and love to everyone who has lost a loved one. Strength and comfort are my prayers for you.
Thank you for reading.
With Love.
Chidinma Ibemere (Abba’s Favourite)
